“Part of me wishes we had good psychiatrists or psychologists to come up with some solutions, because I know I haven’t a clue.”

A caveat here (based on my own experience only, of course).

This is tricky too.

IMO, especially if one plans to work with a therapist of color, one has to vet one’s therapist just about as carefully as one vets one’s mate prospects, when it comes to topics like this.

You don’t know what lies they may have been exposed to — or what their expectations are WRT they think BW deserve — and whether those thoughts are conscious or unconscious (and that last set is a whole different thing when it comes to ferreting out, lol) — unless you ask some very, very careful questions.

GoldenAh: You’ve made a very very good point! Dang, ’cause there are too many people out there thinking BW deserve not a damn thing. :D

I’ve read a few articles / blogs from shrinks / psychos / Drs who are black women. Their perspective is NOT “How does this help a black woman?” it’s about continuing to circle the drain with “black community” and “How will this affect ‘da brothas’?” crap. To be frank, black women need to be selfish in a healthy, woman-focused, self-affirming, emotionally and financially rewarding kind of way. Saying, “No”, is the first step.

Yeah, some of these “black at all costs” shrinks / psychos / Drs might not be helpful after all. It does make sense to check everybody’s thinking towards us. That’s a necessity.

FROM HERE.

Awwwwww crap...

Processed foods that may not be as healthy as fresh foods include:

* canned foods with lots of sodium
* white breads and pastas made with refined white flour, which are not as healthy as those made with whole grains
* packaged high-calorie snack foods, like chips and cheese snacks
* high-fat convenience foods, like cans of ravioli
* frozen fish sticks and frozen dinners
* packaged cakes and cookies
* boxed meal mixes
* sugary breakfast cereals
* processed meats

FROM HERE

"It's not the ups and downs that make life difficult, it's the jerks."

- Charles Chaplin

Not from me....

IF the Word of God cannot reach a sinner and IF the Holy Ghost cannot reach them, then nothing will. And resorting to imitating the world won’t help. The world needs to be imitating US. Christians set the standard, not satan.

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We are so content to hide behind, “Judge not lest ye judged” or “Touch not mine anointed” that we don’t hold people accountable for the things they do. Our excuse is always, “Well, we shouldn’t judge.” Baloney! Jesus was not talking about sitting idly by and letting sin run rampant and never calling people to account for what they do. He was cautioning us not to be holier-than-thou and critical for no reason and not to judge from a position of moral superiority without examining ourselves too.

The Bible speaks of judging with mercy and judging with righteous judgment and admonishing the unruly. Yes, God makes the final judgment; however, we are allowed to make discernments and appraisals and decisions about the things we see. We just shouldn’t do it and ignore our own sins or do it in a spiteful, vengeful way.

Part of the problem with this world today is that we are so eager to tolerate every and anything. We (and in this “we”, I include many of us Christians) refuse to stand up to the wrongdoing and the bad behavior we see. That’s why some of our pastors (and parishioners) are running amok and some of our churches could double for nightclubs. Many of us are afraid to speak the truth because we get hit with “Judge not lest ye be judged” by those folks who take the bits and pieces of the Bible they like and make them fit their needs and those who fail to read this Scripture and many others in their full context.

FROM HERE

Everything will be ok in the end. If it’s not ok, it’s not the end.

Reprobation, in Christian theology, is a corollary to the Calvinistic doctrine of unconditional election which derives that some of mankind (the elect) are predestined by God for salvation. Therefore, the remainder are left to their fallen nature and eventually to eternal damnation. This same state of unbelief is also known as reprobation. In Calvinist terminology, the non-elect are often referred to as the reprobate. Similarly, when a sinner is so hardened as to feel no remorse or misgiving of conscience, it is considered as a sign of reprobation.