Taken from the excellent Black Women with Other Brothers page.
Showing posts with label black women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label black women. Show all posts
Friday, May 31, 2013
Monday, October 22, 2012
Reblogging because it's the truth...NOT MINE!
"I just want to add this, many men have a wrong view of what it means to ‘lead’ a family. They think that’s being authoritarian and bossing folks around. But leading as a man in family means, you lead in sacrifice, you lead in loving, you lead in serving, you lead in giving. That’s what it means to lead a family and I’m sorry many some folks don’t deserve that title nor do they deserve to be respected or followed by the women they supposed to be leading. If a man did all those things that a leader should do in a family, he wouldn’t have one ounce of issues with his wife. She’d be happy, so she would be onboard.
I’m a strong woman and very independent and have always been so. But when I met Matt and we decided to go into a serious relationship that has now lead to marriage and it happened without an argument or even an side-eye from me. You don’t have to force her, she will naturally go. Women want to be taken care of by their men and real men want to take of their women, but most women don’t trust the man to do it especially when he shows no willingness to do it. People are always acting like bw are forcing their will down bm’s throats. Leading your household is not anything you have to make a woman get behind, if you do it and do it well, it just happens naturally. As strong, capable, and independent as I am Matt is a leader and it didn’t take any convincing on his part for me to let him lead. It was a relief to tell the truth, in ex-marriage I had to lead b/c he was incapable of doing so. I was so happy to have a man, be the man, he didn’t have to convince me. He takes care of business, why the hell would any woman fight that and if she does she’s certifiably stupid. And if a man is deserving of a leadership role, it will make itself known in him. He won’t have to convince or cajole, he will just do. I’m tired of this talk and no action, if you doing the actions of a leader, how do ppl argue with that but my thought is that since many bm aren’t raised by fathers that showed leadership they have no idea what it means to lead a family. You have to be taught that."
I’m a strong woman and very independent and have always been so. But when I met Matt and we decided to go into a serious relationship that has now lead to marriage and it happened without an argument or even an side-eye from me. You don’t have to force her, she will naturally go. Women want to be taken care of by their men and real men want to take of their women, but most women don’t trust the man to do it especially when he shows no willingness to do it. People are always acting like bw are forcing their will down bm’s throats. Leading your household is not anything you have to make a woman get behind, if you do it and do it well, it just happens naturally. As strong, capable, and independent as I am Matt is a leader and it didn’t take any convincing on his part for me to let him lead. It was a relief to tell the truth, in ex-marriage I had to lead b/c he was incapable of doing so. I was so happy to have a man, be the man, he didn’t have to convince me. He takes care of business, why the hell would any woman fight that and if she does she’s certifiably stupid. And if a man is deserving of a leadership role, it will make itself known in him. He won’t have to convince or cajole, he will just do. I’m tired of this talk and no action, if you doing the actions of a leader, how do ppl argue with that but my thought is that since many bm aren’t raised by fathers that showed leadership they have no idea what it means to lead a family. You have to be taught that."
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Not mine:
"Unless a man-whatever race- does not see
a woman as a person first, that man should
leave that woman alone. he does not
deserve her. before i am black, i am
woman. note to men: unless the object of
your desire moves you to abandon your
preconceived ideas of what it means to be
other, and challenges you to find out for
yourself who she is, keep moving. you lack
the stuff that men bring into lasting
relationships!!! true story.
for anyone interested in dating
interracially, especially a black woman,
character is not optional!!! critical thinking
must be your strong point and genuine
attraction should be the seed that bears
actionable love- love not merely as a feeling
but a choice. a choice to act independently.
the prejudices are there: i will not rehash
them here. and, especially because of these
stereotypes, only those that are genuinely
interested need apply!!!"
Friday, April 8, 2011
WHAT...
...is with the anti-abortion campaigns in BLACK communities? I doubt that my favorite blogs are going to touch this, but I wonder...
1. black women have enough problems and the hoodrats will keep producing regardless so they definitely don't need to see this propaganda.
2. if blacks are (still) so despised*, why would there be a concerted effort to keep more coming?
3. if there has there been a slowdown in arrests of black kids? The Prison-Industrial-Complex is pretty successful, can't let the numbers go low perhaps?
Look, I am a proud Christian woman (with a jacked-up sense of humor), but I have to say Christians of all colors have a tendency to go after the symptom instead of the cause and it angers me.
There is something truly insidious going on with this. Is it bashing black women? absolutely. I'm certainly not seeing this campaign going in other communities, but there is something more... Mind you, I'm not one of those "conspiracy by the man" types; I LOVE "the man" (especially if they're English), but Blacks are being targeted here for a reason.
just wait...
*not without reason, mind you. Aforementioned hoodrats and DeKwan and LaShawnda acting like animals and bringing animals into the world, not to mention the "old heads" that refuse to do shit about it.
1. black women have enough problems and the hoodrats will keep producing regardless so they definitely don't need to see this propaganda.
2. if blacks are (still) so despised*, why would there be a concerted effort to keep more coming?
3. if there has there been a slowdown in arrests of black kids? The Prison-Industrial-Complex is pretty successful, can't let the numbers go low perhaps?
Look, I am a proud Christian woman (with a jacked-up sense of humor), but I have to say Christians of all colors have a tendency to go after the symptom instead of the cause and it angers me.
There is something truly insidious going on with this. Is it bashing black women? absolutely. I'm certainly not seeing this campaign going in other communities, but there is something more... Mind you, I'm not one of those "conspiracy by the man" types; I LOVE "the man" (especially if they're English), but Blacks are being targeted here for a reason.
just wait...
*not without reason, mind you. Aforementioned hoodrats and DeKwan and LaShawnda acting like animals and bringing animals into the world, not to mention the "old heads" that refuse to do shit about it.
Sunday, August 26, 2007
Not Waiting on the BlackMassaKing
DISCLAIMER: This was my very first post on the Anti-Socilalist's Section from late 2005. I've learned a lot since then, and edited the post accordingly.
I just finished reading the book 'It Ain't All Good: Why Black Men Should Not Date White Women,' by John Johnson. It was a book I wanted to read for a while now, and it marked the first time that I had heard a black man speak up on the matter of interracial dating in a non-pc manner. I must confess, it made me happy and sad at the same time. I am proud to say that I come from a family of black women who never subscribed to the idea that we must 'stand behind our black men,' especially since black men have always seem to take great glee in shitting on their so-called "Nubian queens." O.J., Jacko (though I'm not sure he even counts as a black man), even fucking Carter Buford have turned their backs on us as mates. This is not something new. Even back in the day my mother told me how she and her friends had expressed disappointment when Sidney Poitier up and left his family for a trophy blonde. Let's not forget Qunicy Jones, Paul Robeson, James Earl Jones, etc., etc... never mind, the list is too long. Everyone likes to claim that this type of crap is all about breaking barriers and promoting racial harmony. Yeah right, if that was the case, then where are all the white male celebs and THEIR black wives? This is a fact not lost on black women, and it manifests itself in a terrible way. As a black woman myself (yeah that's right), I have seen other women (and girls) allow themselves to be used and abused just to say they have a man. A male role model is JUST as important in a girl's life as in a boy's. The black man is not heading the black family anymore, he's in jail, gay or, if he decides to better himself and get out of the "community," he's going to go get the NON-black trophy wife! We now have a new generation of ignorant, thuggish, hopless souls who have no chance of survival in the real world (unless they get a show on VH-1). Black men simply do not care about black women anymore, they buy into Madison Avenue's idea of what they're supposed to have to be happy, they buy into the European standard of beauty and are more than happy to turn their backs on their mothers, sisters and daughters.
Unfortunately, the rest of the world sees this too. Are black women angry? Hell yeah, and I am so fucking sick and tired of the blame put on us alone for this anger. Black women need to wise up, stop mimicking the thugs on BET and consider looking outside of the "community" for love. Until black men are called out for the rift they have caused, there will be no change.
I just finished reading the book 'It Ain't All Good: Why Black Men Should Not Date White Women,' by John Johnson. It was a book I wanted to read for a while now, and it marked the first time that I had heard a black man speak up on the matter of interracial dating in a non-pc manner. I must confess, it made me happy and sad at the same time. I am proud to say that I come from a family of black women who never subscribed to the idea that we must 'stand behind our black men,' especially since black men have always seem to take great glee in shitting on their so-called "Nubian queens." O.J., Jacko (though I'm not sure he even counts as a black man), even fucking Carter Buford have turned their backs on us as mates. This is not something new. Even back in the day my mother told me how she and her friends had expressed disappointment when Sidney Poitier up and left his family for a trophy blonde. Let's not forget Qunicy Jones, Paul Robeson, James Earl Jones, etc., etc... never mind, the list is too long. Everyone likes to claim that this type of crap is all about breaking barriers and promoting racial harmony. Yeah right, if that was the case, then where are all the white male celebs and THEIR black wives? This is a fact not lost on black women, and it manifests itself in a terrible way. As a black woman myself (yeah that's right), I have seen other women (and girls) allow themselves to be used and abused just to say they have a man. A male role model is JUST as important in a girl's life as in a boy's. The black man is not heading the black family anymore, he's in jail, gay or, if he decides to better himself and get out of the "community," he's going to go get the NON-black trophy wife! We now have a new generation of ignorant, thuggish, hopless souls who have no chance of survival in the real world (unless they get a show on VH-1). Black men simply do not care about black women anymore, they buy into Madison Avenue's idea of what they're supposed to have to be happy, they buy into the European standard of beauty and are more than happy to turn their backs on their mothers, sisters and daughters.
Unfortunately, the rest of the world sees this too. Are black women angry? Hell yeah, and I am so fucking sick and tired of the blame put on us alone for this anger. Black women need to wise up, stop mimicking the thugs on BET and consider looking outside of the "community" for love. Until black men are called out for the rift they have caused, there will be no change.
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