Reblogging because it's the truth...NOT MINE!

"I just want to add this, many men have a wrong view of what it means to ‘lead’ a family. They think that’s being authoritarian and bossing folks around. But leading as a man in family means, you lead in sacrifice, you lead in loving, you lead in serving, you lead in giving. That’s what it means to lead a family and I’m sorry many some folks don’t deserve that title nor do they deserve to be respected or followed by the women they supposed to be leading. If a man did all those things that a leader should do in a family, he wouldn’t have one ounce of issues with his wife. She’d be happy, so she would be onboard.

I’m a strong woman and very independent and have always been so. But when I met Matt and we decided to go into a serious relationship that has now lead to marriage and it happened without an argument or even an side-eye from me. You don’t have to force her, she will naturally go. Women want to be taken care of by their men and real men want to take of their women, but most women don’t trust the man to do it especially when he shows no willingness to do it. People are always acting like bw are forcing their will down bm’s throats. Leading your household is not anything you have to make a woman get behind, if you do it and do it well, it just happens naturally. As strong, capable, and independent as I am Matt is a leader and it didn’t take any convincing on his part for me to let him lead. It was a relief to tell the truth, in ex-marriage I had to lead b/c he was incapable of doing so. I was so happy to have a man, be the man, he didn’t have to convince me. He takes care of business, why the hell would any woman fight that and if she does she’s certifiably stupid. And if a man is deserving of a leadership role, it will make itself known in him. He won’t have to convince or cajole, he will just do. I’m tired of this talk and no action, if you doing the actions of a leader, how do ppl argue with that but my thought is that since many bm aren’t raised by fathers that showed leadership they have no idea what it means to lead a family. You have to be taught that."

if you reverse genders... very powerful indeed

" Always think positive. Perhaps dating is not for you. Perhaps dating is not for you, now. When you are getting older and less bitter, some doors and keys for the womens world will open. I believe that there is a special meaning for each of us. Our existence does matter, single, lonely or not. Dont hop into that "then when I'll get the girl..."- talk because the only time is now. Stop being bitter, angry, resistant to change and hateful. Now I know that being single in a flawed point of view is worse than losing someone you love. Afterall, the second person at least experienced true romance for awhile.

The truth is that its better to be single than in a bad relationship. I believe to the absolute core of my soul that modern women are that of a pretty low quality. They are intellectually modest, whiny in conversations and depressing company. You could waste months with a bad mood because modern women are verbally aggressive. I also believe, that we, love shy's should just give up  . We have learnt to cope with being by ourselves and a relationship would be toxical or out of the question for us, because we're better off single. You can work, study and hang out with friends. Give up. When you have neutralized all them negative thoughts about women, your "company worth" as I like to call it, will raise to the max. 

My own choice for an adulthood life, rather, would be that of a life loving and caring life is without parent responsibilities or mood "stabilizers" with being in a relationship with a bitchy woman, is life as a single. You are much better off single. For now. Keep the gates open. Dont force yourselves to play any fucking PUA games or squeezing yourself into the modern market standards. Thats just wasted life, love and time. Life is a gift. The only time is now. Create some legendary and epic moments for the upcoming New Year 2011. I am only offering the short cut for your life than wasting precious years studying all the PUA, Cosmopolitan and bad boy crap that is out there.

Bottom line: Create a meaningful life based on different aspects than what would be a relationship with a girl. Its rarely without any drama so just settle with being single. Free yourself from the "male model" and other media demands and feel free to delve upon lifes high atmospheres. Life IS refutable. Your life is your life so it matters. It IS without a woman for now so dont get delusional or play the "what if"- game or the victim. Own your life and stand tall. Be brave. Fight till the bitter end. Cus life wont wait."