Tuesday, December 28, 2010

“Part of me wishes we had good psychiatrists or psychologists to come up with some solutions, because I know I haven’t a clue.”

A caveat here (based on my own experience only, of course).

This is tricky too.

IMO, especially if one plans to work with a therapist of color, one has to vet one’s therapist just about as carefully as one vets one’s mate prospects, when it comes to topics like this.

You don’t know what lies they may have been exposed to — or what their expectations are WRT they think BW deserve — and whether those thoughts are conscious or unconscious (and that last set is a whole different thing when it comes to ferreting out, lol) — unless you ask some very, very careful questions.

GoldenAh: You’ve made a very very good point! Dang, ’cause there are too many people out there thinking BW deserve not a damn thing. :D

I’ve read a few articles / blogs from shrinks / psychos / Drs who are black women. Their perspective is NOT “How does this help a black woman?” it’s about continuing to circle the drain with “black community” and “How will this affect ‘da brothas’?” crap. To be frank, black women need to be selfish in a healthy, woman-focused, self-affirming, emotionally and financially rewarding kind of way. Saying, “No”, is the first step.

Yeah, some of these “black at all costs” shrinks / psychos / Drs might not be helpful after all. It does make sense to check everybody’s thinking towards us. That’s a necessity.


Saturday, December 18, 2010

Awwwwww crap...

Processed foods that may not be as healthy as fresh foods include:

* canned foods with lots of sodium
* white breads and pastas made with refined white flour, which are not as healthy as those made with whole grains
* packaged high-calorie snack foods, like chips and cheese snacks
* high-fat convenience foods, like cans of ravioli
* frozen fish sticks and frozen dinners
* packaged cakes and cookies
* boxed meal mixes
* sugary breakfast cereals
* processed meats


Thursday, December 16, 2010

"It's not the ups and downs that make life difficult, it's the jerks."

- Charles Chaplin

Monday, November 29, 2010

Not from me....

IF the Word of God cannot reach a sinner and IF the Holy Ghost cannot reach them, then nothing will. And resorting to imitating the world won’t help. The world needs to be imitating US. Christians set the standard, not satan.


We are so content to hide behind, “Judge not lest ye judged” or “Touch not mine anointed” that we don’t hold people accountable for the things they do. Our excuse is always, “Well, we shouldn’t judge.” Baloney! Jesus was not talking about sitting idly by and letting sin run rampant and never calling people to account for what they do. He was cautioning us not to be holier-than-thou and critical for no reason and not to judge from a position of moral superiority without examining ourselves too.

The Bible speaks of judging with mercy and judging with righteous judgment and admonishing the unruly. Yes, God makes the final judgment; however, we are allowed to make discernments and appraisals and decisions about the things we see. We just shouldn’t do it and ignore our own sins or do it in a spiteful, vengeful way.

Part of the problem with this world today is that we are so eager to tolerate every and anything. We (and in this “we”, I include many of us Christians) refuse to stand up to the wrongdoing and the bad behavior we see. That’s why some of our pastors (and parishioners) are running amok and some of our churches could double for nightclubs. Many of us are afraid to speak the truth because we get hit with “Judge not lest ye be judged” by those folks who take the bits and pieces of the Bible they like and make them fit their needs and those who fail to read this Scripture and many others in their full context.


Friday, November 26, 2010

Everything will be ok in the end. If it’s not ok, it’s not the end.

Monday, November 22, 2010

Reprobation, in Christian theology, is a corollary to the Calvinistic doctrine of unconditional election which derives that some of mankind (the elect) are predestined by God for salvation. Therefore, the remainder are left to their fallen nature and eventually to eternal damnation. This same state of unbelief is also known as reprobation. In Calvinist terminology, the non-elect are often referred to as the reprobate. Similarly, when a sinner is so hardened as to feel no remorse or misgiving of conscience, it is considered as a sign of reprobation.

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

This made me laugh...

Re: Alternate titles for 'Precious'

Million Pound Baby
Dial M for Morbidly Obese
Eastbound and Down Syndrome
One Flew over the Chicken Breast
Dr. Strangelove or: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and *beep* My Dad
Citizen Inane
Eternal Sunshine of the Empty Mind
Black Movie

Saturday, October 9, 2010

1 John 4

Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world.

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Not my quote, but,,,,

Sabrina The Teenage Bytch 9/28/10, 05:19:PM

First of all your entire post is nothing more than mindless drivel.

Black women aren’t even relevant to this situation. This is a story about A BLACK MAN THAT IS A HYPOCRITICAL, CONDESCENDING, HOMOSEXUAL PEDOPHILE!!!

How do black women even die into the mix?

Try again.

Like I said before I’m tired of black men looking for sympathy.

They bytch about the white man, yet they obess over the white woman…a woman that is the white man’s seed.

They bytch about black women, yet most black men were raised by single black women.

Black men are extremely bias, and I’m tired of their bullshyt, and I’m tired of their excuses.


STFU!!! No more excuses, it is 2010. Black men need to grow the f_ck up."

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

God's other names via the OT

# El Shaddai (Lord God Almighty)
# El Elyon (The Most High God)
# Adonai (Lord, Master)
# Yahweh (Lord, Jehovah)
# Jehovah Nissi (The Lord My Banner)
# Jehovah-Raah (The Lord My Shepherd)
# Jehovah Rapha (The Lord That Heals)
# Jehovah Shammah (The Lord Is There)
# Jehovah Tsidkenu (The Lord Our Righteousness)
# Jehovah Mekoddishkem (The Lord Who Sanctifies You)
# El Olam (The Everlasting God)
# Elohim (God)
# Qanna (Jealous)
# Jehovah Jireh (The Lord Will Provide)
# Jehovah Shalom (The Lord Is Peace)
# Jehovah Sabaoth (The Lord of Hosts)

FROM: http://www.blueletterbible.org/study/misc/name_god.cfm

Saturday, September 18, 2010

Also not mine...

"It's not about "giving up" or "denying your
sexuality", it's about realizing that all passionate,
intense desires, such as sex, the need to keep
your children safe, the need for emotional
connections, etc..... all that stuff isn't as
important as your body wants you to believe.
That's all biological, if you can recognize that
your body is what's causing you to feel so
strongly, you're on the first step to realizing how
silly it is. You can train yourself to separate from
the body, and realize that your ego and your
biological desires don't rule the roost, YOU do."

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

I did NOT say the following in reply to that lovely blog about black women and the church - but it's SPOT ON nonetheless...

"Black women have been in church since the beginning of the church. You can't simply state the church is the reason without explaining the possible changes in the church that may have lead to this result. I find it odd that the folks who make these argument take what used to be a source of strength in the black community (education, pride, and faith) and turn it into the black woman's downfall.

If they're so concerned about finding reasons for the rise in single black women why not address the break down of the black family, the effects of poverty in the black community, and the changing values? Why not attack what is blatantly bad instead? Please don't continue to fall for this mess."

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

best of craigslist > philadelphia > Rant: Ode to the Nice girl
Originally Posted: Sun, 27 Nov 21:18 EST
Rant: Ode to the Nice girl
Date: 2005-11-27, 9:18PM EST

Ode to the Nice Girls
This rant was written because a nice girl finally snapped.

I've read the tribute to the nice guys; this is my response.

This is my tribute to the nice girls. To the nice girls who are overlooked, who become friends and nothing more, who spend hours fixating upon their looks and their personalities and their actions because it must be they that are doing something wrong. This is for the girls who don't give it up on the first date, who don't want to play mind games, who provide a comforting hug and a supportive audience for a story they've heard a thousand times. This is for the girls who understand that they aren't perfect and that the guys they're interested in aren't either, for the girls who flirt and laugh and worry and obsess over the slightest glance, whisper, touch, because somehow they are able to keep alive that hope that maybe... maybe this time he'll have understood. This is an homage to the girls who laugh loud and often, who are comfortable in skirts and sweats and combat boots, who care more than they should for guys who don't deserve their attention. This is for those girls who have been in the trenches, who have watched other girls time and time again fake up and make up and fuck up the guys in their lives without saying a word. This is for the girls who have been there from the beginning and have heard the trite words of advice, from "there are plenty of fish in the sea," to "time heals all wounds." This is to honor those girls who know that guys are just as scared as they are, who know that they deserve better, who are seeking to find it.

This is for the girls who have never been in love, but know that it's an experience that they don't want to miss out on. For the girls who have sought a night with friends and been greeted by a night of catcalling, rude comments and explicit invitations that they'd rather not have experienced. This is for the girls who have spent their weekends sitting on the sidelines of a beer pong tournament or a case race, or playing Florence Nightingale for a vomiting guy friend or a comatose crush, who have received a drunk phone call just before dawn from someone who doesn't care enough to invite them over but is still willing to pass out in their bed. This is for the girls who have left sad song lyrics in their away messages, who have tried to make someone understand through a subliminally appealing profile, who have time and time again dropped their male friend hint after hint after hint only to watch him chase after the first blonde girl in a skirt. This is for the girls who have been told that they're too good or too smart or too pretty, who have been given compliments as a way of breaking off a relationship, who have ever been told they are only wanted as a friend.

This one's for the girls who you can take home to mom, but won't because it's easier to sleep with a whore than foster a relationship; this is for the girls who have been led on by words and kisses and touches, all of which were either only true for the moment, or never real to begin with. This is for the girls who have allowed a guy into their head and heart and bed, only to discover that he's just not ready, he's just not over her, he's just not looking to be tied down; this is for the girls who believe the excuses because it's easier to believe that it's not that they don't want you, it's that they don't want anyone. This is for the girls who have had their hearts broken and their hopes dashed by someone too cavalier to have cared in the first place; this is for the nights spent dissecting every word and syllable and inflection in his speech, for the nights when you've returned home alone, for the nights when you've seen from across the room him leaning a little too close, or standing a little too near, or talking a little too softly for the girl he's with to be a random hookup. This is for the girls who have endured party after party in his presence, finally having realized that it wasn't that he didn't want a relationship: it was that he didn't want you. I honor you for the night his dog died or his grandmother died or his little brother crashed his car and you held him, thinking that if you only comforted him just right, or said the right words, or rubbed his back in the right way then perhaps he'd realize what it was that he already had. This is for the night you realized that it would never happen, and the sunrise you saw the next morning after failing to sleep.

This is for the "I really like you, so let's still be friends" comment after you read more into a situation than he ever intended; this is for never realizing that when you choose friends, you seldom choose those which make you cry yourself to sleep. This is for the hugs you've received from your female friends, for the nights they've reassured you that you are beautiful and intelligent and amazing and loyal and truly worthy of a great guy; this is for the despair you all felt as you sat in the aftermath of your tears, knowing that that night the only companionship you'd have was with a pillow and your teddy bear. This is for the girls who have been used and abused, who have endured what he was giving because at least he was giving something; this is for the stupidity of the nights we've believed that something was better than nothing, though his something was nothing we'd have ever wanted. This is for the girls who have been satisified with too little and who have learned never to expect anything more: for the girls who don't think that they deserve more, because they've been conditioned for so long to accept the scraps thrown to them by guys.

This is what I don't understand. Men sit and question and whine that girls are only attracted to the mean guys, the guys who berate them and belittle them and don't appreciate them and don't want them; who use them for sex and think of little else than where their next conquest will be made. Men complain that they never meet nice girls, girls who are genuinely interested and compelling, who are intelligent and sweet and smart and beautiful; men despair that no good women want to share in their lives, that girls play mindgames, that girls love to keep them hanging. Yet, men, I ask you: were you to meet one of these genuinely interested, thrillingly compelling, interesting and intelligent and sweet and beautiful and smart girls, were you to give her your number and wait for her to call... and if you were to receive a call from her the next day and she, in her truthful, loyal, intelligent and straightforward nice girl fashion, were to tell you that she finds you intriguing and attractive and interesting and worth her time and perhaps material from which she could fashion a boyfriend, would you or would you not immediately call your friends to tell them of the "stalker chick" you'd met the night prior, who called you and wore her heart on her sleeve and told the truth? And would you, or would you not, refuse to make plans with her, speak with her, see her again, and once again return to the bar or club or party scene and search once more for this "nice girl" who you just cannot seem to find? Because therein lies the truth, guys: we nice girls are everywhere. But you're not looking for a nice girl. You're not looking for someone genuinely interested in your intermural basketball game, or your anatomy midterm grade, or that argument you keep having with your father; you're looking for a quick fix, a night when you can pretend to have a connection with another human being which is just as disposable as the condom you were using during it.

So don't say you're on the lookout for nice girls, guys, when you pass us up on every step you take. Sometimes we go undercover; sometimes we go in disguise: sometimes when that girl in the low cut shirt or the too tight miniskirt won't answer your catcalls, sometimes you're looking at a nice girl in whore's clothing - - we might say we like the attention, we might blush and giggle and turn back to our friends, but we're all thinking the same thing: "This isn't me. Tomorrow morning, I'll be wearing a teeshirt and flannel shorts, I'll have slept alone and I'll be making my hungover best friend breakfast. See through the disguise. See me." You never do. Why? Because you only see the exterior, you only see the slutty girl who welcomes those advances. You don't want the nice girl.. so don't say you're looking for a relationship: relationships take time and energy and intent, three things we're willing to extend - - but in return, we're looking for compassion and loyalty and trust, three things you never seem willing to express. Maybe nice guys finish last, but in the race they're running they're chasing after the whores and the sluts and the easy-targets... the nice girls are waiting at the finish line with water and towels and a congradulatory hug (and yes, if she's a nice girl and she likes you, the sweatiness probably won't matter), hoping against hope that maybe you'll realize that they're the ones that you want at the end of that silly race.

So maybe it won't last forever. Maybe some of those guys in that race will turn in their running shoes and make their way to the concession stand where we're waiting; however, until that happens, we still have each other, that silly race to watch, and all the chocolate we can eat (because what's a concession stand at a race without some chocolate?)

Sometimes the nice girl gets sick of waiting
PostingID: 114087824

FROM: http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/phi/114087824.html

Sunday, August 15, 2010

QUESTION: Where can you find the verse in the Bible that says GOD won't put more on us than we can handle?

ANSWER (from WikiAnswers):

I Corinthians 10:13
No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

Here are some other really good ones.

Isaiah 26:3
Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.

Romans 8:35-39
Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?

As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.

Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.

For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,

Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

I John 4:4
Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world.

Romans 8:31
What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us?


The scripture previously mentioned at 1 Corinthians 10:13 highlights that God will not allow a Christian to be tempted beyond what he can bear, but it does not say that he is the source of the temptation or trial. James 1:13 says, "When under trial, let no one say: "I am being tried by God." For with evil things God cannot be tried nor does he himself try anyone."

So God does not bring problems on us. He is not the source of the trials we may face, but he does allow us to be tried, and as the scriptures cited above explain, he will help us, if we rely on him

Sunday, August 8, 2010

I love afternoon nap dreams...

...Hugh Laurie was my boyfriend, very sweet, very English :)

Friday, July 23, 2010

2 Timothy 1:7

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

Thursday, July 22, 2010

Re-working of a great quote...

Being rejected by the men of this world is sort of like being told by the devil that you don't qualify for hell because you aren't bad enough.

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Where spiritual darkness dwells, in mind, the judgment, and the conscience will be darkened, and will mistake the way to heavenly life.

From WikiAnswers:

What is the difference between the New Testament and the Old Testament?
In: The Bible [Edit categories]
The Old Testament records God's dealings with His chosen people, the Israelites, and the promise He made to them to bless the world through them. The New Testament records what Christians believe is the fulfilment of that promise, the birth of Christ, His life and the building of His church. Those of Jewish faith regard the Old Testament as their scripture. Those of Christian faith see both the Old and New Testaments as scripture.

Testament means "covenant." Christian Bibles consist of the Old Testament and the New Testament. The Old Testament book is essentially the Jewish Bible, also called the Tenakh. The book of the New Testament consists of the writings that document the coming of the awaited messiah, Jesus Christ, and the development of His church.

Originally, the Old Testament was the covenant between God and Abraham, wherein God promised to bless all nations through Abraham's progeny. This promise, Christians believe, pointed forward towards Christ. The Old Testament lists the law, the ten commandments and many rules of observance, as well as history, psalms and wisdom. In the New Testament, Jesus says "Think not that I am come to destroy the law, or the prophets: I am not come to destroy, but to fulfil."

In Luke 24:44, Jesus said "... all things must be fulfilled, which were written in the law of Moses, and in the prophets, and in the psalms, concerning me." And "For this is my blood of the new testament, which is shed for many for the remission of sins." Accordingly, Christians believe that the entire Old Testament was preparing God's people for the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Christians believe the fulfilment of the law was accomplished by Christ's death and resurrection. Believers consider themselves not under the Old Testament law, but that by grace with the help of the Holy Spirit they follow the Law of Christ (Galatians 6:2) which is

"Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets." (Matthew 22:37-40)

Christians believe the Old Testament is the history of God's mercy and grace towards Israel and His wrath towards sin. Yet, in His love for them, He sent His Son to die in just payment of the sins of all mankind. In the New Testament, one sees that man can never keep the law perfectly and thus earn eternal life in Heaven. It is a free gift given to those who trust in Christ's sacrifice as payment of their sin, resulting in their justification and eternal life.

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Basically I posted this as a memo to myself...

Packing Well is the Key

If you are prepared for your cat's needs and choose the items that you take carefully, you can alleviate a lot of the anxiety for both of you. An unprepared traveler will find that his stress rises as he finds along the way that he does not have the tools to care for the traveling cat. And his stress will affect said feline.
What Things to Pack

1. Carrier: Some people opt for a special harness that secures to a seatbelt, but we highly recommend you stick to a hard shell carrier when traveling with your cat. A secured carrier is the safer way for your cat to travel and, if you get her used to it slowly before the trip, she will feel safe and comfortable in it.

2. Harness: Do bring a harness so your cat can stretch his legs at rest stops along the way. Stop every couple of hours at least.

3. Carrier Pad: Use a pad that your cat has been sleeping on at home. Bring additional pads or towels in case your cat has an accident during the ride, which is more than likely to happen. Keeping your cat dry and comfortable is essential to curbing his anxiety.

4. Toys: Many cats will ignore anything you place in their carrier yet familiar toys still seem to help calm kitty. Often cats will just lie on them instead of actually playing, but you might get your cat to play with a dangling toy in the vehicle at a rest stop.

5. Pheromones: Using a feline pheromone mimic collar or spray can help your cat relax on the trip. These pheromones are naturally secreted when a cat rubs his face on something so that, on returning to the spot, he is familiar with the scent and finds it comforting. Feliway spray can be used on your cat's bedding in his carrier or you can try a Good Behavior collar which creates a calming atmosphere for your cat anyplace.

6. Food and Water Supply: Calculate how much food you need to bring based on your cat's daily consumption. Bring enough for the whole trip so you don't possibly have to substitute a different brand at some point. It's better not to feed your cat while you're out on the road as it will likely just result in regurgitated food. Always bring more water than you think you'll need. It'll save you having to make stops just to get more. Offer it to your cat at every rest stop.

7. Bowls: There are many options for bringing along bowls for your cat - many people like the collapsible travel bowls but you can also get some that fit on the door of your cat's carrier. Keep in mind that water will splash as you roll along so only fill it half-way.

8. Treats: Bring several kinds of treats along and offer them to your cat at the rest stops. Don't be discouraged if she turns her nose up at them. After all, why should she trust something coming from the person who is putting her through this indignation? Leave a few in her carrier and she'll probably eventually eat them.

9. Litter Box: For the rest stops it's important to have a good little box system. The easiest place to put one when you stop is the floor of the passenger's seat. Let your cat roam around the car when parked and gently show her the box if needed. Your best bet is to get several disposable boxes with litter already in them so you can toss them after she's used them.

10. Medications and First Aid: It's easy to forget any medications that your cat takes so throw these into your bag early on in packing. Also bring a first aid kit which can be purchased at any large pet store or make one yourself with the following: gauze, medical tape, hydrogen peroxide, Neosporin (or similar product), tweezers, scissors, towels, sterile saline solution.
And Don't Forget...

Remember to pack your cat's vet records when you travel in case you need to bring her to a clinic during the trip. You should also gather information about vet clinics along your route so you know where to take her if there is an emergency. Check out this website for emergency clinics across the country. Also make sure any hotels you book are cat-friendly well in advance.

With a little planning, a trip with your cat can be fun (or, at least, tolerable). And keep in mind that cats tend to recover very quickly once they've reached the destination and re-established their role as ruler of their kingdom.


Fun fact #42:

I attract superintendents.

Tuesday, July 6, 2010


I've had a Twitter account for a while now, only began posting on it recently, the people I follow are way more interesting. Check it out if you enjoy the ramblings of a woman torn between her faith, love of junk food and misandry/misanthropy (mostly misandry). I go by nellieray.

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

God and the Spider

During World War II, a US marine was separated from his unit on a Pacific island. The fighting had been intense, and in the smoke and the crossfire he had lost touch with his comrades.

Alone in the jungle, he could hear enemy soldiers coming in his direction. Scrambling for cover, he found his way up a high ridge to several small caves in the rock. Quickly he crawled inside one of the caves. Although safe for the moment, he realized that once the enemy soldiers looking for him swept up the ridge, they would quickly search all the caves and he would be killed.

As he waited, he prayed, "Lord, if it be your will, please protect me. Whatever your will though, I love you and trust you. Amen."

After praying, he lay quietly listening to the enemy! my begin to draw close. He thought, "Well, I guess the Lord isn't going to help me out of this one." Then he saw a spider begin to build a web over the front of his cave.

As he watched, listening to the enemy searching for him all the while, the spider layered strand after strand of web across the opening of the cave.

"Ahah, he thought. "What I need is a brick wall and what the Lord has sent me is a spider web. God does have a sense of humor."

As the enemy drew closer he watched from the darkness of his hideout and could see them searching one cave after another. As they came to his, he got ready to make his last stand. To his amazement, however, after glancing in the direction of his cave, they moved on. Suddenly, he realized that with the spider web over the entrance, his cave looked as if no one had entered for quite a while. "Lord, forgive me," prayed the young man. "I had forgotten that in you a spider's web is stronger than a brick wall."

We all face times of great trouble. When we do, it is so easy to forget the victories that God would work in our lives, sometimes in the most surprising ways. As the great leader, Nehemiah, reminded the people of Israel when they faced the task of rebuilding Jerusalem, "In God we will have success!" [Nehemiah 2:20]

Remember: Whatever is happening in your life, with God, a Mere spider's web can become a brick wall of protection. Believe He is with you always. Just speak His name through Jesus His son, and you will see His great power and love for you.

Author Unknown
Submitted by Richard

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

This isn't very Christian but - why type when there are people that says stuff so much better than me?

From another great board:

"Don’t look for someone to be your mommy. If all you want is sex and someone who can cook for you, then hire a hooker and a maid."

Problem is, I don't think most "bruthas" can afford either one.

Thursday, June 17, 2010

Prayer for waiting on God (from christianforums.com)

Dear Lord Jesus,

I offer up to you each one of us here waiting on you to answer our prayers. You alone Lord know our deepest pain, fears, and needs. As we sit at your feet each day, calm our restless and anxious hearts to know that closed doors are a blessing and an opportunity to new directions in our life, to trust you more than men, to pray more in the darkest hours, to see with faith that you will do all things in your time, and to prepare ourselves for the doors you will open up for us. Thank you for this band of brothers and sisters who encourage us with their prayers and love. Thank you because you will provide in your time. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Monday, June 14, 2010

From Halima's site (Black Women's Interracial Relationship Circle)

"'Waiting on and believing God for a turn around of the situation', 'holding out (for victory)', 'never giving up etc,' maybe 'taking it to the lord in prayer' all these are clearly evidenced in the way black women repsond and are straight from the faith talk rule book. Now there is a long history of the use of a spiritual/christian approach within black culture. However a clear question here is, how does the black woman not adjuting to the current dating reality, but simply ‘trusting God’ (possibly wanting God to make things to go back to how they were with black men 30 years ago), constitiute a 'reasonable response' to their situation, that will bring them a desired outcome. How does ‘taking it to the lord in prayer’, help especially when God himself is no respector of persons and probably knows he has made enough provision for black women seeking mates, black women who however prefer to put God in a 'box' and confine God's response to fidning them a man who is black only. Indeed was it not Peter who was instructed to choose his fare from the whole range of animals (symbolic for taking the gospel to all of humanity), and told that 'what God had made clean, no one should call unclean'?

Indeed looking at the reaction and behaviour of black women especially those of the christian tradition, you would think white men are not also 'washed by the blood' as the next black person, an erroneous and unchristian belief which they will pay a high price for holding unto. As someone once said, 'God will not bless your mess!'"

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Okay, this kinda shut me up (100th post, woohoo!)

from a really good Christian message board:

"I believe that God created the earth in 6 literal days.
What the Bible says is absolute truth.
God is God. He can do anything He wants, when He wants, and take however long He wants doing it.
Just because it doesn't even begin to make sense in our puny human minds doesn't mean that it must be inaccurate. Our understanding of the ways of this universe is small and ridiculously pathetic.
We'll never fully understand God's way of working, and I don't think we're meant to."

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

How to Know You're Saved

I'm not a Methodist, but this is nice:

What does it mean to be saved and to be assured of salvation? It's to know that after feeling lost and alone, we've been found by God. It's to know that after feeling worthless, we've been redeemed. It's to experience a reunion with God, others, the natural world, and our own best selves. It's a healing of the alienation—the estrangement—we've experienced. In salvation we become whole. Salvation happens to us both now and for the future. It's "eternal life," that new quality of life in unity with God of which the Gospel of John speak—-a life that begins not at death, but in the present. But how does salvation happen?
By grace through faith
Salvation cannot be earned. There's no behavior, no matter how holy or righteous, by which we can achieve salvation. Rather, it's the gift of a gracious God.

By grace we mean God's extraordinary love for us. In most of life we're accustomed to earning approval from others. This is true at school, at work, in society, even at home—to a degree. We may feel that we have to act "just so" to be liked or loved. But God's love, or grace, is given without any regard for our goodness. It's unmerited, unconditional, and unending love.

As we come to accept this love, to entrust ourselves to it, and to ground our lives in it, we discover the wholeness that God has promised. This trust, as we've seen, is called faith. God takes the initiative in grace; but only as we respond through faith is the change wrought in us.

This process of salvation involves a change in us that we call conversion. Conversion is a turning around, leaving one orientation for another. It may be sudden and dramatic, or gradual and cumulative. But in any case it's a new beginning. Following Jesus' words to Nicodemus, "You must be born anew" (John 3:7 RSV), we speak of this conversion as rebirth, new life in Christ, or regeneration.


Friday, May 21, 2010

"Truth operates regardless of the opinions of man just as gravity will operate regardless of belief, understanding, or interpretation. If the universe and mankind are direct creations of a personally involved God, then man's interpretations do not diminish the truth of creation."

(The above is from here)

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Good post from a board I don't visit (thanks Google):

RE: Why Black Men Don't Go To Church

Basically they don't want to go to church or serve God and want to blame it on women, and the pastor. They will be accountable to God all on their own and the blame game won't help them.

Saturday, May 1, 2010


I want to reassure you that your worry about these earthly issues distracts from your attention to prayer, Jesus, and the hereafter. God's earth, and all the people in it are just as they should be. They are all part of God's Will and Plan for us. Trying to change things is the work of the devil getting into you and you must resist the temptation to take part in earthly debates, such as politics, abortion, war, etc. What is, is because of God. We are powerless to change his will, and must truly love God by accepting all he sends to us as tests. Floods, Tsunamis, Earthquakes, Drought, Famine, Fire, are all in his omniscient power to prevent, but he does not. Why? We shall not know, as the bible tells us, "God works in strange ways."

The greek scripture for this is quite clear:

Γονάτισε μπροστά του θεού. Ανελκυστήρα μέχρι ρούχα σας ότι μπορεί να έχετε δει για το ποιος είσαι. Πάρτε τον στο στόμα σου και στο πρωκτό σας και να ξέρετε τον για το ποιος είναι.

This roughly means Do not question your God, but obey him, and kneel before him, and take all he give you even if it is painful, for he is God and knows best.

Friday, April 30, 2010


"I"m still reading Luke but I noticed that a lot of what I'm reading is already been in Matthew (all the occurrances are actually noted in the big bible but I forgot what this phenomenon is called). Should I press on or should I start another book?"

Answer: "Continue reading. Remember that the gospels are written by witnesses to Jesus' ministry. Especially Luke, the "Beloved Physician", who was very observant and prone to detail.

The beautiful thing about the bible is that through repetition, the Word, via Holy Spirit, confirms itself in our spirit. And it becomes part of us, unlocking the gate between our spirit and the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit can then become part of us, change us and validate us. It gives us a peace the world can't give and power, love and a sound mind."

Monday, April 26, 2010

From Christianforums.com:

"I have an intimate relationship with a Person, not a denominational label or church title.

A daily, personal, intimate life with Yeshua each day is Life, not a pastor, church label or other source.

As Paul said, "I have resolved to know nothing but Christ and Him crucified."

We come to church to fellowship with and build up other believers, not to get our relationship with Jesus. That should take place in private with Him each day."

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

The more things change...

I've recently renewed my relationship with God. It took my sister's testimony of His Grace to show me how messed up my life was. Found a nice church with decent people, started back reading His word. As better as I feel, I'm a little bummed at the word given to me regarding my single status, but it feels right. Maybe more people should admit this is true instead of that "someone for everybody" stuff. To God be the Glory:

"To all those with answers of starry eyed optimism, you are full of it.

I am involved heavily in charity works, doing as much good on the planet as I can. That means crap when it comes to a love life. Karma does not apply.

After only two attempts a relationship (I'm in my late 20's... yeah.), I have been dumped with full enthusiasm by the other person. I have attempted many relationships, but I was only able to manage to have any potential with those two, and they are long gone after a brief period of time.

They both said it was them, and not me.


I have come to accept that I am not meant to be in a fulfilling relationship.

Some people are meant to live and die alone. I am one of those people.

I have accepted that. The sooner others accept their own intended isolation, they will not feel upset or confused as to why it is not happening for them.

For a small percentage, it never will. I've always been a person who is in a small unique percentage for most everything, so this is no exception.

Enjoy life, and do not yern for things that are not intended for you.

Not everyone can be a respected athlete, a musician, a dancer, etc.

Same thing with love, not everyone is capable of being loved."

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Obama honey....


Wednesday, March 10, 2010


For the idiots harping on the Hoohoo-hook-nose for his comments the other day, yeah the girl needs to lose weight (though I'm not sure how that would help her get more work since most American buying lemmings and casting directors aren't comfortable with black women who are darker than Halle Berry - including most self-hating negro "males," THEY can be dark as coal with big nasty chapped lips talking about "no dark butts" and nobody calls that ugly and the self-hating "sistahs" will still defend and buy their garbage), ya'll just gave him something to talk about other than American Idol and Jay Leno for the next several weeks... the black race is dead.

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Fun fact #331

Amazon Text Trace sucks a fat one. Not one fucking notification.

Saturday, February 27, 2010

Fun fact 983:

You can never rely on the word of a black man with female friends.

Monday, February 15, 2010

File this under "Yeah, I said it."

I was got pissed at this "celebrity" site (that shall remain nameless) kissing the ass of that so-called singer! You know, the guy who beat up that little Grace Jones wannabe. I just couldn't help myself so I wrote the following....

"Black women are the only ones who support and salivate over woman-beaters, pedos and muderers. No wonder we're laughed at. Im sure he'd gladly beat the s*it out of any one of you - and you'd probably love it 'cause he a fiiiiiiiinnne chocolate brutha' and he's at least touching you, right? Fu**in morons."

Sunday, February 14, 2010

Sunday, February 7, 2010


Who are you rooting for? the Saints? the Colts?...

...I'm betting on Al-Qaeda... I fucking hate sports - and don't call Homeland Security, it's just a joke.


Thursday, January 28, 2010

Saturday, January 23, 2010

Big Ups to...

...my baby, Loola the WonderKitten. For being my favorite pain-in-the-ass and dead-mouse-in-the-fan discoverer.


Thursday, January 14, 2010

Not from me...

"Call me crazy, but I've noticed that white men appreciate dark-skinned women and natural hair even moreso than black men often times. Most of them that like black women want to have the "authentic" experience and are fascinated with afros and dark-skinned and all that stuff. Maybe you're looking in the wrong places. Everybody (black and white people included) seems to love contrast...."


"Sometime I feel it’s a mentality that we sometimes wear on our sleeves that exudes anger, low self esteem, bitterness and a slew of other negatives that aren’t the list bit attractive.
I repeat a message that has been repeated time and time AND TIME again. Stop looking to others to validate your self worth, your beauty, your sexiness etc."

Saturday, January 2, 2010

Oh yeah, I forgot...

...Happy New Year.